"You can avoid reality, but you cannot avoid the consequences of avoiding reality."

Ayn Rand)

INFPs, do we understand? Even if you don’t, you are forced to remember this life quote from now on!

(via yeunginfp)

"Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worst kind of suffering."
Paulo Coelho, By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept (via psych-facts)
30 Traits of an Empath


1.  Knowing:  Empaths are observant and aware of people beyond the norm.  They have a knowing beyond mere simple intuition or gut feeling.  The skill will get stronger as they grow in awareness and trust of Self.

2.  Does NOT enjoy spending time in public places: The Empath will limit their time in public places like shopping malls or crowded events.  They prefer small or one-on-one gatherings with people. 

3.  Absorbs and feels the emotions of others as their own: This is a definitely the biggest challenge for Empaths. Many are unaware that they are affected because they transmute negative this energy.  

​4.  Avoids watching, listening or reading anything with violence or cruelty: The more developed the Empath, the more affected they will feel to watching or listening or being surrounded by negative.

5.  Knows when someone is being dishonest: If a friend or a loved one is lying, an Empath will know.  

6.  Prone to feeling anxious, depressed or overwhelmed: They may feel anxious or depressed for no real reason of their own.  Their minds are always thinking of ‘something’ and they process too much information.  

​7.  Digestive problems or lower back pain:  This relates to the solar plexus chakra area where emotions are stored.  

8.  Sees beyond the outside, superficial masks or words spoken:  The Empath understands a person at a deeper level. 

9.  Friends or even perfect strangers share their personal stories: Here is the soul to soul connection happening.   

10.  Battles with fatigue: Most Empaths are unknowingly drained from normal daily activity and interaction with others.      

11.  Addictive behaviors: Alcohol, drugs, sex, or food are just a few ways an unaware Empaths choose to help calm them.

12.  Drawn to healing, holistic or metaphysical concepts: Empaths are typically open-minded.  

13. Creative: Singing, dancing, acting, drawing or writing are strong loves for the Empath.

14.  Loves being in nature and around animals: Being in nature or around animals is a essential for Empaths.

15.  Needs time in solitude: An Empath loves their solo time to re-energize.  Most are introverts and play at being extraverts.   

​16.  Bored or distracted easily if not stimulated: An Empath can easily switches to daydream or doodle.  

17. Finds it impossible to do things they don’t enjoy: Empaths cannot be forced to do something they dislike.  ​

18. Chameleon Abilities: They adjust themselves and relate well to seemingly different types of people.

19. Seeks knowledge/wisdom: They have a very active mind that probes for answers.   

20.  Likes adventure, freedom and travel: Empaths are free spirits and like their independence.  

21.  Abhors clutter: This is because clutters makes Empath FEEL weighed down and blocks the flow of energy.   ​

22.  Loves to daydream:  An Empath can stare into space for hours; in a world all there own and be blissfully happy.  

23.  Finds routine, rules or control, imprisoning: Anything that takes away their freedom is debilitating to an Empath.  

​24.  Inclined to carry extra weight without necessarily overeating: The excess weight is a form of protection.

​25.  Excellent listeners: Empaths love to listen, learn and know others.   

26.  Intolerant to narcissism: Although kind and often very tolerant, Empaths spot and avoid egotistic people.

27.  Ability to feel physical symptoms of another:  Some can connect to feel their physical pain or discomfort of others.    

​28.  Not interested in purchasing antiques, vintage or second-hand: Anything that’s been pre-owned carries the energy of the previous owner. An Empath prefers to buy new even when their financial situation is tight. 

29.  Sensitive to noise level or simultaneous stimuli: An Empath is very affected by their surroundings because they process ALL that is happening on many different levels. Many times, this is too much for them and they react emotionally to the situation.  ​

​30.  Moody, shy, aloof, disconnected:  Empaths are prone to mood swings.  If they have no release for negative emotions, they may even appear quiet and unsociable, even miserable. 

 -taken from Empath Evolution

I understand. I should see whatsapp as email for now. 

Rules to Dating an INFP:


We got some requests to do a guide to dating INFPs, especially from our friends at TheINTJway and Brittany volunteered to take it on. Which is good, because I don’t know what it takes to date an NFP, being one. -Suzannah

Side note: Though I’ve found this to be applicable to INFP’s, this list is supposed to be somewhat humorous. And keep in mind that this is written by one person’s experiences and opinions. Everyone’s obviously different and I’m, by no mean, trying to stereotype anyone here :) 
~ B 


(This is in no particular order)

#1 You must understand that your INFP needs space sometimes. Back off and don’t pester them. If you’re an Extrovert like me, then you’ll get annoyed or confused by this need they have. But just remember, most likely your INFP will come back with a fresh mind and a new appreciation for the relationship. In this case, absence really does make the heart grow fonder!

#2 You have to accept your INFP’s creative side. You might not understand the method to their madness sometimes. That’s okay. Just be loving towards them and accepting. And in the end, you might be pleasantly surprised.

#3 You have to be able to talk sense into your INFP. Don’t be forceful in doing so. Despite their type, INFP’s can be very logical people. Though they don’t naturally go there when making decisions, they are readily accepting of a thought pattern that makes sense. All you have to do is show it to them. If you aren’t this person in the relationship, your INFP will float away with the passing clouds.

#4 You should be someone that catches their attention; someone unique, someone that thinks for themselves, someone different from the crowd. INFP’s love to figure people out. And even more than that, they love people who swim against the current. It’s also a good advantage to be a hard shell to crack/ have a tough exterior. If your INFP proves to be able to get under your skin (or at least thinks they have), they will feel all the more close to you.

#5 You MUST have patience (at least when it comes to emotional outbursts). To the NTJ’s especially, you need to know that INFP’s just cry sometimes about things that are unsolvable (or even ridiculous in the eyes of others). Usually the best thing to do is to ask “What can I do for you right now?” and you can figure out what to do from there. But don’t expect to solve the problem for them in this case. Sometimes the best thing to do is to just sit with them/ hold them as they release their emotions.

#6 Show your INFP respect, especially when it comes to their ideas/ thoughts! They are used to being tramped on, disregarded or ignored. Don’t be another one of those people! They will end up hating you if you’re constantly putting their ideas down. But if you show them the respect their ideas deserve, then they will love you forever and show you the same respect.

#7  Know your literature, people! INFP’s are poetic beings that live in an alternate reality than most. When you can know classical literature, poetry, art, etc. they will open up to you and, if your lucky, bring you into their dark, secret world for a while.

#8 Action! You must be a person of action. INFP’s come up with the greatest ideas, but they have a hard time putting their ideas into motion. If you are a person that can help them achieve their dreams, it will make an immense impact on your INFP.

#9 You should be dependable. INFP’s are in need of a foundation; someone who can support them in any crisis; large or small. In order to gain their trust, you must be able to stand by what you say you will do for them and DO IT.

#10 It’s always a plus to be physically affectionate. This doesn’t mean PDA so don’t worry INTJ’s. But doing little things around the house or in the car or sitting in a park alone, can make a huge difference. Especially if you aren’t a physically affectionate person to begin with, if you show them you care by stroking their hair/ putting your arm around them/ cuddling with them while watching a movie, they will feel special and loved. 

#11 GIFTS! INFP’s are suckers for gifts. Though they definitely value mind over matter in relationships, INFP’s love pleasant surprises. Get dressed up and take them to a fancy restaurant or buy them roses and take them by their workplace or order that special edition book they’ve been wanting.

#12 Be the pursuer. INFP’s know what they want. But what they want changes every five minutes. They might decide they’re going to talk to you one minute and they’ll back off the next. You must be able to at least strike up a conversation with them and show them that you’re clearly interested for them to keep you in their mind.

#13 Don’t just be a passing fixation. Often, the lovely INFP’s get mesmerized by certain things and people. They will get obsessed and fall in love very easily. You should keep this in mind. Don’t take advantage of this! You should prove to them that you want things to last in your relationship with them.

#14 Don’t brag or over-exaggerate about yourself. It’s a turn off for INFP’s and they can see right through this façade. Bragging is a sign of self-consciousness. Even if you’re the richest smartest man in the world, if you want to date an INFP try to be humble. Be confident in who you are and just be yourself. 


"I never enjoy anything. I’m always waiting for whatever’s next. I think everyone’s like that..living life in fast-forward. Never stopping to enjoy the moment. Too busy trying to rush through everything so we can get on with what we’re really supposed to be doing with our lives. I get these flashes of clarity, brilliant clarity, where for a second I stop and I think “Wait, this is it. This is my life. I better slow down and enjoy it because one day we’re all gonna end up in the ground and that’ll be it. We’ll be gone."
Josh Boone (via aurorefleurs)
"You are my sun, but I am just one of your stars ."